Isn’t it weird how when a celebrity celebrity has a baby/teenagers/menopause, it becomes become a ‘thing’. The latest ‘issue’ to be re-branded is the menopause, with Meg Mathews (Noel Gallagher’s ex wife) and Gwyneth Patrow taking it upon themselves to raise awareness and create a range of products to make it all ok. Phew, that’s relief.
Meanwhile, us mere mortals have been soldiering on, trying to make sense of the life altering mood swings, overwhelming anxiety and confusing (for our loved ones) rages . Not to mention the night sweats that startle us awake – no matter how tired we were when we went to bed – and give way to haunting thoughts of doom that last till 4.45am when we fall into the deepest sleep that obviously can’t last – due to the 8.30am breakfast meeting we optimistically arranged when we felt like a normal functioning person.
Menopause is different for everyone, some lucky people sail through with little or no symptoms and others suffer (sometimes in silence) struggling on for months, wondering why they feel so angry/confused/sad/hot etc etc. Only to finally be told by the doctor that nothing can be done – as it’s “hormonal”
Up until recently there has been little or no information or conversation around the subject and saying you were menopausal in the workplace was akin to telling your male school teacher you couldn’t do PE as you had your period.
The fact we are talking about it more and there is an increasing amount of information and more products to help us cope, is surely a good thing. But follow Meg Mathews on Instagram and I’m sure you agree her menopause is very different to women like you and I, who have to go to work everyday and juggle real lives.
Daily workouts, vegan/macrobiotic diets and access to numerous physicians and experts to offer advice can be expensive, so perhaps talking honestly to our mothers and friends and refusing to be fobbed off by our doctors, is a more realistic way to cope and make it less of a taboo subject.
As far as I’m aware my mum didn’t have a menopause – but she equally never talks about periods or childbirth- so I’ve had no bench mark as to how my menopause might play out. But I’m sure as hell going to be honest with my daughter, as being the hottest/angriest person in the room is no fun and by the time she gets to my age, I hope she’s confident enough to shout about it.
In the meantime I’m testing out CBD oil and will let you know how it goes.