There are a lot of great things about getting older – afternoon napping (actually my twenty-something daughter does that too), only hanging out with people you really like, having the confidence to say no to stuff you don’t want to do (I’m still working on that one), not feeling guilty about everything (ditto), taking time for yourself now and then, and dare I say it – not having small children.
Is it just me or do other people feel worn out and slightly impatient around small children (not babies – they can’t help it) unless they are connected by actual blood. All that mess, repeating yourself and explaining things, make me want to lie down in a darkened room with a box set.
One of the best things about ageing has to be wearing exactly what you want when you want – although anyone who knows me IRL, knows I have never been one for sticking to convention when it comes to clothes. From punk inspired plastic and 50s rockabilly to New Romantic, you name it I have tried it – lookwise. And I’m still not adverse to a spotty Adidas track bottom and an MA1 flying jacket when pressed!
The one thing I have steadfastly refused to wear over the years however is heels – apart from the odd really dressed up occasion where it felt wrong not to – but I inevitably ended the night feeling like a cross between a drunken Rue Paul and ancient Dick Emery.
When women say they feel empowered by heels I simply don’t get it – how can sticking the equivalent of a five inch pencil on the end of your foot be empowering. I am just over five feet and have never ever in my life used heels to make myself more powerful/sexy and never will – isn’t empowerment about what you do, rather what you look like?
Social media was up in arms recently when Londoner Jo Beattie was refused a job on the front desk of an investment bank because she was not prepared to wear a skirt and high heels. Her story came after Nicola Gavins, a waitress in Canada, posted a photo on Facebook showing a waitress’s bleeding feet after she was forced to work a shift in high heels.
Its unbelievable to think such blatant sexism could happen today. We have come so far to shift perceptions around gender and women’s rights – yet employers still think its ok to impose such ridiculous requirements. Beattie has since launched a petition calling for the law to be changed so companies can no longer force women to wear high heels to work. It has so far received more than 140,00 signatures.
I feel sad when I see women tottering around on heels – sad that they feel they have to put up with being uncomfortable and unable to walk properly in the name of fashion, or an attempt to improve their self esteem. Surely the men in the above video by Stylist magazine illustrates just how ridiculous heels really are!
Birkenstocks, mens brogues and trainers are my footwear of choice and will be until I go to my grave wearing (flat) red glittery Mary Janes.
“These five inch heels are really comfortable” said no-one ever, at the end of a night out!