As 20 something daughter gets ready to go back to university for her final year – we have that back to school feeling for the very last time. This time next year, she will be an actual adult doing actual adult things, like going to work, earning money and living an independent life. At least she hopes so and so do I.
Luckily both of my children have chosen vocational careers, so after a period of unpaid internships there is a very real possibility of a job in the industry they have chosen. In fact 20 something son is working such ridiculously long hours doing what he loves (for money thank God) that we never see him – even though he is still living at home.
When I left college I had nightmares about having to move back home. The idea of parental restrictions and suburban life was way too much to bear and I moved to a tiny hovel in Highgate costing £15 a week, as soon as I could. But our children are not held back by rules and regulations at home and feel comfortable being their true selves around their parents. Yes there are restrictions – there has to be – but cheap (or no) rent, a constant supply of food and a comfortable, clean house, more than make up for them.
Is this cosy, multi generation living or co-dependance? Are we enjoying each others company for longer than previous generations or are we creating monsters who don’t know how to do things for themselves.
Millennials have invented the term “adulting” for doing regular things like laundry and or cooking themselves dinner. The Urban Dictionary defines “adulting” as “to do grown up things and hold responsibilities such as a 9-5 job, a mortgage/rent, a car payment, or anything else that makes one think of grown ups.”
Call me old fashioned but isn’t that just life, and as parents are we guilty of creating a generation so self obsessed, that they have to invent a # for cleaning the toilet?
What do you think?